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Dreaming of or knowing what you want comes easy, achieving it can be a whole lot harder. But what is it that you dream of doing? And what is it that is holding you back?

Fear

The thing that is holding you back. For so many of us, myself included, it’s fear.

Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of not being good enough, fear of suffering in some way as a result of trying and failing etc.

Fear, also known as being risk averse, is an in-built evolutionary protective mechanism designed to keep us safe. It plays an important role in our survival. If our ancestors did not fear the huge man eating crocodiles lurking in the river we humans may not be here today. 

However fear is also the thing that holds us back from pushing ourselves to achieve our dreams and become truly fulfilled. It’s comfortable and safe to continue on the path we know well. Our instincts tell us to stay away from the metaphorical river so as to avoid being eaten by huge man eating crocs!

Achieving dreams

Often achieving our dreams can feel like an impossible task. Life really can feel like such a struggle every single day for a whole load of reasons. It may feel like your dream actually gets further away and more unattainable each day. I’ve had periods in my life, some lasting many years where my dreams, hopes and aspirations really have felt so unattainable.

On a personal level this was during the years when Ed and I wanted to have children of our own. I was told by medical professionals after some investigations that I had ‘unexplained infertility’. What a total downer. I later went on to experience pregnancy loss and miscarriages after IVF. 

The experiences I had during this time were beyond awful and it really was the worst time of my entire life.

A dream is born

The loss and pain that I feared happened time and time again and then I gave up on that dream. Ultimately it was the strong reoccurring physical pain and symptoms that led me to a man who changed everything for me. Another medical professional. But this time someone who cared deeply and went above and beyond to help me to help myself. 

I was given a medical diagnosis. A real reason behind my apparent infertility. Things started to get better for me. I became pain free, a healthier and happier version of myself. I started clean eating on an obsessive scale. I took a whole load of supplements.

Three months later I conceived naturally and carried to term my first born daughter.

My dream was born on 9th September 2017.

Having a baby is a transformative time for any new parent. For me, it was nothing short of a miracle and my girls have given me the strength and determination to follow my dreams despite my fears.

What are your dreams and fears? Please feel free to leave me a comment below and thanks so much for reading 😊